how to stop having fomo

Realize it’s all your fault.

I was on a website platform that has pictures that people post of recent activities and other stuff.

All of a suddent inbetween political memes with questionable factual accuracy I spotted an event that looked like fun. An event that I realized I hadn’t been invited to. An event that I was looking forward to. I even had it on my calendar.

So naturally I went through all the stages of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)

Poor me, no one likes me. I never get invited to anything. Who do these people think they are? They think they are so cool, not inviting me. I’m cool. I should have been there.

I’m thankful it didn’t last that long, because I had a weird tickle in my memory. A disturbance in the force. A hold-up moment.

I looked at my email. I didn’t see an invite. I was thinking at this point that I wanted to double check to see if I hadn’t been invited, then I could know for sure that my anger and hurt feelings were justified. I wanted to make sure I wasn’t wrong. So then the hate could really flow. And I could get all revved up. (by the way nothing is more fun to be around than a self-righteously angry martyr type, super great at parties)

Guess what?

Guess who had been invited……….

Yes I had been invited.

Guess who had even RSVP’ed……..

Yes, I had RSVP’ed.

I had even put it on my calendar……

So now what.

Oh deep shame and fuck, goddamit. Now I’m pissed because I was invited. I could have been at that event. I could have been in those pictures.

Now I feel like a piece of shit and I need to make amends.

So the way to not feel FOMO for me in that particular moment was to remember to make more detailed calendar reminders. And to put reminders ahead of the event reminding myself that the event is coming up.

So now for the amends. I am going to buy them a gift and hand-write an apology.