how not to care if someone is always late

I have two choices. I can either text them ahead of time and remind them of our meeting and see if they are on time.

Or I can not do that and show up and wait for them to arrive. But, if I go this route I can’t get super frustrated when they are late. Because I didn’t want to take that extra step and remind them ahead of time. Just because I feel like I shouldn’t have to do that.

So I can go into a situation where there is a predictable outcome that annoys me. Get into that situation and then get annoyed when the predictable thing happened. Who is at fault.

Well both of us. My expectations were off from reality. And the other person was fucking late. So we both have something to work on.

I have tried in the past with this person to schedule meetings 30 minutes early, knowing they will show up late. So I know the actual start time is 10:30, but I put 10:00 on the calendar. Even that feels like more than I should have to do.

So why do I resent having to do more to prevent my own annoyance?

Do I expect the world to meet me where I’m at? Yes, yes I do. Is that too much to ask. It turns out, that yes it is too much to ask. I mean I guess it’s not too much to ask, but then I also can’t get that annoyed. I can get a little annoyed because that’s unavoidable, but I can’t get super annoyed and have it affect my whole day.

I guess there is a third option and I can show up late too. Maybe I’ll do that this time.

Shit, look at the time I better get going or I’m going to be late.